"A big part of the stress in our lives is caused by the negative chatter that goes on constantly in our minds."

• Negative Emotion - FEAR
  Caused by impending danger or pain real or imagined. It's caused by our desire to avoid any kind of pain be that physical, emotional or even financial.
• Negative Emotion - SELF-PITY
  Feeling sorry for ourselves for our perceived suffering or misfortune. This is our reaction to a negative circumstance or action "done to us" that we feel injured us.
• Negative Emotion - ENVY
  This is a feeling of discontent arising as a result of others success and good fortune. We see other people doing well and immediately feel hard-done-by because we don't have the same level of success.
• Negative Emotion - JEALOUSY
  This is the feeling of losing a partner or possession to another. It comes from our own insecurities and also a lack of trust in others.
• Negative Emotion - Feelings of Inferiority
  This is the feeling caused by perceiving ourselves as being less worthy and capable than others. It leads to a lack of self confidence and an unwillingness to take chances in life. This in turn will lead to a lower level of achievement in life.
• Negative Emotion - ANGER
  This is the feeling of severe displeasure or extreme annoyance prompted by our own perception of people, circumstances and events that we experience in life. It is us passing judgement on that person or happening.How to Control angry feeling?

These negative emotions are such a problem because, not only do they make you unhappy, they poison your relationships, give your kids a negative view of the world and ultimately stall yours and your children's success.

ROOT CAUSE

• Justification
  Justification is you justifying your negative emotion. You feel that you are entitled to be negative because of what happened. You put yourself in the victim role. This is a downward spiral into negative emotions that will drain you.
• Rationalisation
  You putting a good spin on something that isn't too good. You explain away your reaction to make your behavior socially acceptable. You make excuses, both to yourself and others, because you feel uncomfortable about what you've said or done. This is going to provoke negative emotions in you because you are not dealing with and putting right whatever it is you are rationalising.
• Over-concern With Others Opinions
  Excessive worry about what other people think of us. We live our lives based on others reactions to us instead of our own desires and goals. This will increase our negative emotions as we will not be free to follow our own path to a successful and happy life if we are always looking at how other people think of us.
• Blame
  This is when we constantly blame other people or situations for our own behavior. We don't accept responsibility for our own lives and behavior, therefore we give our power away and sabotage our own happiness and success. This will cause increased negative emotions.

SOLUTION

• Accept total responsibility.
  Accepting total responsibility for your life, recognizing that your thoughts have shaped your reality, is the key to the freedom of creating the life you want. Regularly use the affirmation: "I am responsible".
• Refuse to blame.
  Don't blame others for what happens. Sometimes it's really tough, but we are responsible for how we react to others actions; we can react in a way that builds up and mends relationships or make things worse by our reaction. Don't blame, look for the solution and move on.
• Don't make excuses or justify yourself
  Making excuses and justifying our behavior is a pointless exercise, all it does is build up your negativity. We need to apologize for what we've done that's wrong and ask how you can make it right. That way you can feel right with yourself and the relationship is hopefully back on a good footing. Incidentally this also applies to a fall-out with our kids. If we apologize to them when we're wrong, they will learn to be mature in this way too.
• Refuse to critisize, condemn or complain.
  Every time we critisize someone or complain about something we are putting a negative vibe out there. Also with each negative thought it becomes more likely that you'll have more similar negative thoughts, in time these patterns of thought become beliefs that limit your life. We need to stop the downward cycle by becoming aware of our negative thoughts and when one pops up saying something to yourself like "thanks for sharing" then carrying on realizing that the thought wasn't true.

The positive emotions of love, peace, joy, hope and enthusiasm will flow in to take the place of the negativity which will ebb away. You will be in a better place to improve your relationships. You will start to feel a new excitement and creativity in your life which could lead to an exciting new start for you. Source: http://bit.ly/duOpq5