Friendship Psychology - Maintain your Friendship

• A true friendship will stand the test of time while you are adjusting to your new role in life. Don't let any one's perception of who you should be and how you should act prevent you from making the necessary changes to make your dreams come true. 

• The friendship will retain the most important roots that will connect you together, such as being able to share your most intimate secrets. The love will remain pure, but you will enjoy your time together as well as apart.

• Maintaining an emotional distance from others will allow us to get along as acquaintances and business associates much better. I can't count the times that I should have not exposed my underbelly when trying to fit in or upon meeting a new acquaintance.

• Loyalty, honesty, trust and favor take time to develop in any relationship and friendship is no exception to the rule. Don't make the mistake of expecting too much too soon from a friendship. A shared interest in book club or salsa dancing does not mean that this person should be trusted with a key to your home or know the intimate details of your new romance.

• Friends typically find the same type of guy attractive, enjoy the same taste in clothes and have similar career interests or capabilities. For exp: "you and your friend meet the same great guy at the same time, but he chooses your friend over you. They marry, have babies and live happily ever after in la la land. Can you truly be happy for her? If you are truly happy with your life and who you are, you could be happy for your friend, otherwise you may experience feelings of jealousy and insecurity". If you and your friend both apply for graduate school and your friend is accepted and you are rejected, this will have an impact on your friendship.

• Friends sometimes unintentionally sabotage your success. Some people believe that if you want to lose weight and develop an exercise routine, it is best to buddy with a friend. If you begin to lose weight and your friend is not losing weight, she may begin to discourage you from exercising by suggesting other activities. If your friend is not doing well in school, they may use creative ways to distract you from studying. Unfortunately, if your friend is having problems maintaining or attracting a loving relationship, she may do and say negative things to undermine your relationship with your mate.

• Friends can be uncomfortable in the friendship when roles change, if you evolve from being the ugly, dumb or fat friend your friend may feel awkward. If your friend has always been the one who attracts male attention and all of sudden you become the pretty one, this change will have an impact on the friendship. If the friendship is true your friend will adjust and your bond will grow even stronger.

• Be aware of friends who are envious or jealous of your ambition and success. As you grow and evolve many people will become insecure with the ties that bind their relationship to you. Your friends do not know their role or where they fit into your new life and in many cases this insecurity will cause them to do and say things that will hurt you, in a twisted effort to save the friendship.

• Your friends, buddies, the people you hang out with or whatever you would like to call them are the truest reflection of who you are and what you think about yourself. If you surround yourself with people who are untrustworthy this is because you feel you deserve their friendship. You don't choose your family, but you sure as hell select your friends. Most importantly take a deep, soulful look at yourself. Would you want yourself as a friend? Do you tell secrets that your friends ask you not to tell? Do you flirt with your friend's husbands or boyfriends? Deep down inside are you jealous of your friend's success or happiness? You must be a true friend to have a true friend. Know yourself. If you aren't happy and confident with who you are, you will find it very difficult to find true friendship.

• An honest, loyal, true friend is a person who is happy with themselves, confident and possesses extremely high self-esteem. People who are living their dreams and being true to their calling make the best friends.

• Pay close attention to what your friends say and do. If she is betraying another friend, this is an indicator that she will also betray you. It is very rare that we are surprised at someone's behavior.

Friendship Psychology :)